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Adult Resort Expectations for Sex

adult resort expectations for sex

Our survey asked 22 questions about attending an all inclusive adult lifestyle resort in Jamaica or Mexico.  You spent all that money to get there, so how many of you actually have sex with other people? We asked questions like: expectations, sex with other people, and the value of the resort. The results are in with some interesting findings!

The majority of these answers, 78%, are from the population that identifies as male. (Percentages were rounded up or down to the nearest number.)

If you would like to fill out our survey go to: https://forms.gle/S2NLzpbpUZUteYLn7

SURVEY RESULTS

When people were asked about having sex with other people at an adult lifestyle resort, it’s no surprise our expectations are higher than what actually occurs. Most people expect to have sex with others and actually over half of you did have it. However, what we didn’t ask was, how do you define sex?

  • 63% expected it
  • 59% had it 2-3 times  
  • 19% had it 4-5 times

Even though more than half of you said you had sex with with other people, the same percentage left the resort feeling disappointed because you did NOT have sex with other people.  Which raises the question, are respondents defining sex the same way?  Who is disappointed: men or women?

Apparently if you want to have sex with other people, you need to bring the party! 88% of the people that are at the resort have already had sex with the same people in the past! In fact, 56% of you coordinate your travel plans with other couples.  

So if you are looking to have sex with NEW people, here are your chances:

  • 50% sometimes
  • 25% often
  • 16% always

We also asked if you thought it was worth the money to pay the premium or “swinger tax” to attend a lifestyle adult resort in Jamaica or Mexico and NOT have sex with other people: 50% said it was worth the upcharge!

When it comes to getting comfortable with someone before you want to have sex we asked how long that takes. Most of you sad a few hours yet most of you wait to get down and dirty until the day before you leave for home.

  • 63% a few hours
  • 25% a few minutes

Only 34% say you close the deal when they are interested in having sex with someone else and a whopping 66% say they want it to “happen organically”.

Could this be the reason why there isn’t more sex at resorts?  Is it confidence?  Lacking proper techniques to close the deal?

  • 34% – revealed that they don’t know what to say
  • 31% – say it is body image related
  • 16% – fear of rejection
  • 31% – partied too hard!!!

If you would like to fill out our survey go to: https://forms.gle/S2NLzpbpUZUteYLn7

Authors

  • Ed Swinger

    Design, Audio, Video, Writing, Voice, Production

    Ed brings extensive expertise in user experience, website design and development, and professional audio/video production. With a background in voice-over work and professional speaking, he ensures every episode meets broadcast-quality standards. Ed executes all technical aspects of production: recording in a dedicated studio designed for optimal sound quality, filming with three Insta360 4K cameras, professional audio processing (noise reduction, EQ, compression, loudness management), and editing in DaVinci Resolve. He’s programmed custom OBS macros that provide professional camera direction without a traditional technical director. Ed’s strength is turning complex technical requirements into seamless, professional execution that makes audience experience effortless.

  • Gemini Generated Image o63uhto63uhto63u e1772846096638

    Research, Writing, Voice, Marketing, Community

    Phoebe holds a BA in Communications with a minor in Small Group and Personal Dynamics. She brings deep expertise in sexual health, relationship dynamics, and non-monogamous relationship structures. As a researcher, she meticulously curates each podcast episode, drawing from medical journals, expert interviews, and her 10+ years of lifestyle research and lived experience. Her communication background allows her to synthesize complex topics and present them accessibly across platforms. She creates marketing collateral, publishes across 8+ social media platforms, manages all SEO optimization, and moderates 3 active community forums where listeners actively seek guidance on lifestyle topics. Phoebe’s strength is taking research and experience, then making it both digestible and actionable for the community.