Hi Ed and Phoebe,
We have been together for 10 years and have never had sex with anyone else. We are entertaining the idea of having other experiences with people via swinging. We were planning a trip to a swing club this year but COVID-19 stopped that from happening!
I have a question, how could I overcome my jealousy if I see my girlfriend having an awesome orgasm with another man. How do I not let this destroy my ego?
Hi A.M.,
Well, it took me quite a long time for me to get use to seeing Ed have sex with someone else. I mean, this is not something most people normally get to see. When we started out we were same bed so that we could reassure one another and communicate better since things tend to progress quickly in the beginning with all the hormones and adrenaline flying. You will never know for sure if you will be jealous or envious going in. We always checked in with each other and were honest about our communication. We would stop and regroup if we needed to.
Also, it is important to realize, other couples are far more understanding than you think. If you are polite and respectful, then most people are happy to comply with any request you have. If they don’t in this situation, then it is probably best to grab your clothing and git!
It may take time for you to get use to seeing your woman with another man and see her experiencing pleasure. Just know it is the emotion, connection, and experiences you both have shared with one another that makes YOUR sexual experience the BEST!
Design, Audio, Video, Writing, Voice, Production
Ed brings extensive expertise in user experience, website design and development, and professional audio/video production. With a background in voice-over work and professional speaking, he ensures every episode meets broadcast-quality standards. Ed executes all technical aspects of production: recording in a dedicated studio designed for optimal sound quality, filming with three Insta360 4K cameras, professional audio processing (noise reduction, EQ, compression, loudness management), and editing in DaVinci Resolve. He’s programmed custom OBS macros that provide professional camera direction without a traditional technical director. Ed’s strength is turning complex technical requirements into seamless, professional execution that makes audience experience effortless.
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Phoebe holds a BA in Communications with a minor in Small Group and Personal Dynamics. She brings deep expertise in sexual health, relationship dynamics, and non-monogamous relationship structures. As a researcher, she meticulously curates each podcast episode, drawing from medical journals, expert interviews, and her 10+ years of lifestyle research and lived experience. Her communication background allows her to synthesize complex topics and present them accessibly across platforms. She creates marketing collateral, publishes across 8+ social media platforms, manages all SEO optimization, and moderates 3 active community forums where listeners actively seek guidance on lifestyle topics. Phoebe’s strength is taking research and experience, then making it both digestible and actionable for the community.
