Swingers love to dress sexy! Sexy clothes, lingerie, and costumes are frequently worn to events, resorts, and cruises in the lifestyle.  Sexy clothing is important to swingers but how do you get comfortable wearing it in public?  The challenge could be you haven’t found YOUR sexy style.  Alright….let’s strip this down….

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Importance of Sexy Clothing

Evening parties always have a theme.  Why?  Well, it’s just damn fun!  Plus, a theme is like foreplay for the even and will amp up your anticipation.  Many people will shop for their partner which turns them on!  Getting a sexy gift in the mail and then modeling it after is HOT!  When I asked a woman where she got her outfits, she responded in her sweet southern accent, “My front porch!” 

Getting Comfortable Wearing Almost Nothing

You may be one of those individuals who rips off your clothing as soon as you hit a nudist resort or strut your new bikini as soon as the temperature hits 80.  If you’re not this person, a swinger party may be a bit challenging at first. 

Here’s our advice:

  • Wear clothing that is sexy but comfortable and stretch your comfort level a bit on your first outing.  Have your partner buy you something.  I am always surprised when my husband buys me something I LOVE that I would never buy myself.
  • Change your mindset.  Is your dress or lingerie more skimpy than the 2-piece bathing suit you wear in public among non-swingers?
  • Bring a backup outfit you can change into to feel more comfortable. This will alleviate any stress about being overdressed or underdressed.  Definitely change if someone else has the same outfit!

How to Find Your Style

Don’t freak out when your theme party doesn’t match your Halloween costume from 8 years ago.  We have you covered, or uncovered.

Think about where the event is.  Is it indoors with lots of A/C?  Is it outside in a humid environment?  Will you be dancing in a large crowd of people?  All these factors determine the amount of skin you want showing, how well the outfit moves with you, and the comfort of your sexy high heels. 

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You also want to think about how easy it is to get OUT of your sexy clothes in a playroom, or steamy play date.  Can you put it back on or will it be walking in a towel back to your room?  Be sure your outfit meets the public nudity criteria by covering parts that won’t get you tossed in jail.  If it’s body tape or paint, make sure it stays on in a large crowd or sweaty environment.

Where to Shop

We compiled a list over the years and are happy to share.  Welcome to some delight and discovery!


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